What does it mean to be in the right room? Haven’t we all been to a networking event and met people and then never saw or talked to them again until maybe the next month when we see them again in the same room and when we leave, we again leave with nothing accomplished. When this happens, we are in the wrong room.
What does the right room look like? It is a room where we have something to offer, where we have the opportunity to share our talents, to assist the success of another. Being in the right room means we go into it with the intent to serve, to make someone’s life or business better.
When we enter the room with the intent to help someone else out, karma kicks in and what goes around comes around.
I was recently in another state and I was blessed to attend a meeting full of people who really get how to network and how to use it as a success tool. From that meeting, I have been able to guide a few people through challenges they face, and in return doors have opened for me that I never dreamed would.
Here are some tips on how to find the right room.
- Look above our pay grade. Don’t be afraid to hang out with people perceived to be smarter or more talented than we are. It is surprising what we have to offer when we are looking for opportunities to serve. Bill Gates recently said in a graduation address, “I encourage you to surround yourself with people who challenge you, teach you, and push you to be your best self.”
- Go into the rooms with the goal of learning in mind. When we are curious and willing to learn, we are more apt to start meaningful conversations. Research from the Samuel Lununfeld Research Institute of Mount Sinai Hospital in Toronto have discovered a molecular link between intelligence and curiosity. The more curious we are in the world around us, the more willing we are to study and learn, which make us an interesting person to be around.
- Team rooms. When we attend meetings where we are all working for a common goal, it allows others to see what we have to offer without hitting them over their head with it.
- Listen more than talk. We don’t want to be the person that never really listens to what is being said and talks over and at people. By listening we can ask intelligent questions and provide meaningful comments.
- Really look at people when they are talking. Really engage. Dr Adrian Furnham in Psychology Today states,”People who seek eye contact while speaking are regarded not only as exceptionally well-disposed by their targets, but also as more believable and earnest. Politicians “sweep” the room with their gaze. Salesmen know to look at each member of their audience..” The other day in a meeting the most powerful person at table had the best eye contact and engagement. Probably part of how she became the most powerful person at the table.
By doing these simple things we make every room the right room. I am looking forward to seeing you again and making it the right room!