“Don’t hide behind my skirt!” I will never forget my mother leaning down and whispering that in my ear. I think I was about 5 and we were at dress up party my father had been invited to.
As the daughter of an up and coming officer in the Air Force I was expected to be able to greet people warmly, look them in the eye and shake their hand with a big smile on my face. No hiding behind my mom’s skirt for me! I remember thinking that day that I was going to try out being shy. I had seen other kids do it and it looked easier than what I was expected to do, so I tried it.
My mother started introducing me to one of my father’s superiors and I hid behind her. She leaned down and with her, “Don’t mess with me” face whispered the words that changed my life.
Later that evening she explained to me what she meant by, “Don’t hide behind my skirt!” and although I was only five, I understood the message she was sharing with me.
We as members of the human race liked to be acknowledged, and we in turn pay more attention to others who notice us. We feel more kindly toward them. We are more willing to go out of our way for them. When we are shy, unwilling greet and meet others warmly, we are not only being selfish, we are shutting ourselves out from future opportunities to serve and be assisted be another.
Recently I was in a conference and the speaker of the conference made sure she greeted everyone before she began her lecture. Before the meeting, she sent out an email survey asking for some information about us and a picture. When she greeted each person the day of the event, she knew our name and a little about us. That simple gesture created an instant bond and we were an eager to learn audience! If she called me today and asked me for a favor, I would probably do it!
This quote by Jean Giraudoux rings true: “There is an invisible garment woven around us from our earliest years; it is made of the way we eat, the way we walk, the way we greet people”. The garment exudes a quiet confidence and an openness when we greet others warmly. It also shows that we are not all wrapped up in ourselves but are open to caring about another.
This quote by Franco Santorou expresses the importance of greeting so aptly. “Good Morning! Good Afternoon! Good Night! These are not just mere greetings.
They are powerful blessings, setting the best vibration for the day. Hence, whether it is morning, afternoon or night, make sure that you say your greeting right!”
Wouldn’t it be great if others, when recalling the first time we met them, saying to themselves, “A start shines on the hour of our meeting.” J.R.R. Tolkien
So the gentle reminder from the Work Mom today?
“Don’t hide behind my skirt!”